Having threesome is not just inviting another person into your bedroom, especially for swinger couples. It is about sharing your significant other with another person and watch him/her pleasing or being pleased by another person. There will be negative feelings generated. You might think you will be okay with it, but no one knows for certain unless you are really in one. Even if you set the boundaries and get everyone clear with that, there might still be unforeseen circumstances. It is okay to call it stop or take a break if you have a second thought about it. Actually, that might be the best choice before something worse happens.
I would name my personal experience as an example in this. I learned a lot from that experience. Back when was firstly married to my husband, we were both very curious about fresh things in bedroom. After getting tired of role plays and BDSM, we decided to explore something more, more exciting and dangerous---swinglifestyle. We thought about establishing an open relationship, but being afraid that our relationship would fade away during time, we gave it up. So we decided to try threesomes. Threesome is less risky but also thrilling.
Before we were married, we went out for like nearly two years. We both thought our relationship was steady enough. I didn’t feel much negatively when thinking about my husband kissing another woman, so I thought it would be safe for me. My husband felt the same way as I did. Therefore, we reached an agreement on that soon.
We found a girl in a tinder for swingers app. She was quite cute with a nice figure, but I was still confident enough to not be threatened by her. We gladly invited her to our house and had dinner with us. After dinner, we went upstairs with a bottle of wine. Since it was our first threesome, we decided to have some drink to help us brave it up. Alcohol really did a great work. After some wine, we didn’t feel as awkward as it started.
We undressed each other. It was pretty intense at first. We were acting so horny. Everyone was groaning, kissing and rubbing. I felt okay with it until I saw my husband gave a look to the girl. I was pretty sure that it was their first time seeing each other, because we found her on a tinder couple dating app. But I always had this feeling about that look. It seemed so familiar. After that, my mind was fully occupied with this idea and that look. I was quite absent. When my husband was about to penetrate her, I called stop. I cried out loud. It totally killed the mood of everyone. My husband came to me right away and excused the girl out. He comforted me and promised that he won’t penetrate the girl and this was their first time seeing each other. I felt bad about it but not regret. I think things would be worse if I really let them penetrate.